I recently cut my hair. A lot. A lot by my standards at least. I had long curly hair. It was fabulous. I got comments on it out in public. I have friends who would tell me that they loved it and were jealous. I loved my hair. But then…I cut it short.
My ends were so dry, I needed to refresh my style and my hair. I asked my hair dresser what she thought and she talked me into a LOB, a long bob. I say “talked me into it” because I originally asked for “just a little shorter, like a few inches.” I trust my girl, she is the best thing that ever happened to my hair. So I let her do her thing. She took 6 inches of the front, and 8 inches off the back. Everyone I saw after the cut told me they loved it…but I still had to go through a few emotional stages to fully embrace it. In fact, I’m still trying to fully embrace it, I don’t hate it…but it is still new enough to be an adjustment.
Stage 1: Excitement
It’s something new! It’s so different! I’m a new lady, I got a new perk in my step!
It looks so great when it’s got a brand new cut and a blow out from a professional!
Stage 2: Uneasiness…and learning to use less product
Ok, so after I washed my hair and it’s natural texture is back…uh-oh? Is it cute? I don’t know! Also, cutting off so much hair means I need to learn to use less stuff in my hair.
You have to give it time…
Stage 3: Panic
OMG WHAT DID I DO?! Where did my hair go. I look so weird. It’s not curling the same, WHY!!!!!!!!
No picture because I was so appalled at myself for cutting it so short.
*cue husband* “Honey, you look good! I love the shorter hair. It’s not ‘SHORT’ it is just short-er.”
Stage 4: Denial & Bargaining
Well, it looked good when it was straight…lets get a blowout and see if I can finally get on board. Maybe I can just straighten it every day, I used to in high school! Ugh, no, that was horrible on my hair and self confidence. I finally accepted the curls in college, I can’t go back!
Stage 5: First “Good Hair Day”
So the curliness is back! Its fun, it’s sassy! Lets see how long this lasts…it almost feels to good to be true.
Stage 6: Acknowledgment that some things just aren’t possible anymore
One huge issue I have, I can’t put my hair into a pony tail! It’s too short! And I can’t do fishtail braids anymore, french braids barely reach the nape of my neck.
Good bye pretty bow hair….not that this was an every day hair style for me, but still, now it’s not a possibility at all!
Stage 7: Embrace, but not entirely accept, the short-er-ness
Ok, so I’m feeling the short-ness. It’s sassy, not the classic look I used to aim for, it is different, but not bad. I’m “OK” with it.
I’m not exactly sure what Stage 8 will be. I’m not sure I’m there yet. It could be complete acceptance, it could be something else entirely. I’m not even sure if there is a Stage 8 and this is as far as I can go. Since my plan at this time is to grow my hair back out, this may just be a short lived issue. I don’t regret it…but I still look in the mirror somedays and think “that isn’t how I want to look.”
What I do know is that this new cut needs time to mellow out after it dries and once I’ve styled it. It looks better at the end of day one and on day two after being slept on. I know that I may like it more now simply because it’s grown out in the month and a half since I’ve had it cut. I don’t hate it, but I’m also not in love with it.
The worst is over though! It’s growing out, so I can get back to my long locks or find a shorter one on the way that works with my curls. I got rid of so much dry, icky ends, so hopefully my hair can grow back healthier in time. So here is to trying something new and impulsive and fun and different!